Build Confidence with Strategies that Really Work

Wouldn’t it be grand if we could just wake up in the morning, brush our teeth and put on our confidence for the day?  You know, like you put on your dress or earrings. 

Well, for those of us who don’t have a drawer full of confidence, here are 4 simple strategies that will help you build confidence.

#1. Accentuate the positive.

Be your own best friend. What do you tell a friend who’s tried something new, whether or not it turned out well? At least you tried something new ...  good for you!

Accentuate the effort it took in doing something, rather than the final outcome. (You’d do it for your best friend, wouldn’t you?) We all have limitations. The key is to accept that you have them without dwelling on them.

#2. Don’t be afraid to take some risks.

Think of life as a chance to learn something, it opens up the possibility of you becoming good at that something.

If you spend your time dreading the outcome, you’ll turn any opportunity there might have been into a failure. What’s more, we can’t grow when we are frozen with fear. Don’t set yourself up to fail. If you do, look at number one, again! 

#3. Use self-talk to keep assumptions away.

We all use self-talk. The key is to use it in a way that we don’t form bad thoughts that can lead to permanent doubts. Catch yourself using negative self-talk and cancel it with something positive and not based on assumptions!

Build confidence by not expecting perfection from yourself at all times. You can only do your very best at something. Nobody can do everything perfectly, so why do you assume that you should be able to?

#4. Learn to rely on your self-evaluation.

If you always rely on the opinion of others, you’ll always be wondering what they think! That does nothing to build confidence - it tears it down, by giving away your personal power to others.

Focus on the real you, inside, to find out how you feel about your own actions, how you’ve been doing your job, etc. You’ll be developing a strong sense of who you are.

Conclusion

It’s important to remember that no one can be confident all of the time. In fact, you’ll build confidence faster and easier once your realize that.

Most WOMEN with low self-esteem or who lack in confidence are that way because of unrealistic expectations. They expect more from themselves than they do others.

A WOMAN with low self-esteem will think nothing about calling herself a ‘stupid idiot.’ They wouldn’t dream of saying that to someone else. To build confidence it’s a good idea to be your own best friend.  So, be YOUR own best friend.